Skip to main content

Ace Erasure Is Real

 A Twitter thread from my @ElinAnnalise account 

Whenever I tweet about Asexuality and the need for more awareness and ace education, there’s always someone who’ll say I’m looking for something to be oppressed about or moan about, and that aces aren’t affected like other queer people.

Um, ace oppression and erasure IS real.

Can’t believe I’m having this conversation the day after International Ace Day either. 🙄🙄🙄 

We need more awareness & education, because common responses to telling someone you’re ace are: 

“You should see a doctor.” 

“It’s not a real thing.”

“You’ll find someone in the end.”

“Is it because of trauma?” 

“That’s unnatural.” 

“I can fix you” or “I will fix you.” 

“I choose not to have sex sometimes too!” 

“You’re just scared.” 

“You should see a therapist.” 

“So you have no emotions?” 

“Wow, you’re missing out.” 

“It must mean you’re not happy.”

“I think you’re just repressing your sexuality.” 

“You’re not a whole person.”

“Wow, that’s weird and creep.” [still not sure how it’s creepy!]

“I bet it’s your hormones.” 

So many people think they know what Asexuality is, but then they are actually basing it on misconceptions.

Acephobia is almost everywhere, and it’s so damaging. 

And ace people are threatened and oppressed and even hurt because of their asexuality. It happens.


Popular posts from this blog

Out Now: IN MY DREAMS, My Ace Romance!

  IN MY DREAMS is out now! I can't believe my first ace romance is out in the world!  Writing  In My Dreams   was such a special process for me. I am asexual, and for so long, I believed that any romance novel I wrote would have to include allosexual characters. I didn't think anyone would want to read about a main character who's asexual, especially if it was a romance novel. I really believed that a romance novel had to include sex--but all I really wanted to write was the romance (because that's what appeals to me). You know, those scenes where your characters are falling in love, where everything's new and exciting, where you're really emotionally invested in a pairing.  And where there's also no sexual attraction.   Because that's what it's like for me. I'm asexual, and I don't experience sexual attraction or have a desire for sex. I'm still attracted to people (physically and emotionally), and I'm still very romantic (though man

Yet Another Example of Asexuality Being Erased…

 They had the opportunity to include asexuality… you know, on the colour that represents asexuality… but instead they wrote ‘straight’.  I spotted this poster at my local NHS walk-in centre. Very disappointing.  Ace erasure and exclusion is exactly why days such as #InternationalAsexualityDay are important.

I wrote an Ace Romance!

 Oh my goodness, I almost can't believe it! My first ace romance releases in less than a week!  Writing this book has been amazing--and so, so validating for my own identity.  I'm asexual, and I'm a romance writer. When I begun my romance-writing journey, I firmly believed I'd have to write about sex. I mean, I started with my Rose Haven series (the prequel, When We Were Young, is out now, with book one following next year), and while I love those characters, I always felt a bit 'stuck' when it came to writing the sexual chemistry and the sex scenes. Because, well, I haven't experienced those feelings. I don't understand sexual desire. I've never looked at someone and felt sexually attracted to them.  I realised I was ace (asexual) in my mid-teens. I'm now in my mid-20s, and this hasn't changed. At first, I kept my asexuality a guarded secret. I didn't know how people would react. I'd had therapists suggest I was broken, and friends s