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Ace Erasure Is Real

 A Twitter thread from my @ElinAnnalise account 


Whenever I tweet about Asexuality and the need for more awareness and ace education, there’s always someone who’ll say I’m looking for something to be oppressed about or moan about, and that aces aren’t affected like other queer people.

Um, ace oppression and erasure IS real.

Can’t believe I’m having this conversation the day after International Ace Day either. 🙄🙄🙄 

We need more awareness & education, because common responses to telling someone you’re ace are: 

“You should see a doctor.” 

“It’s not a real thing.”

“You’ll find someone in the end.”

“Is it because of trauma?” 

“That’s unnatural.” 

“I can fix you” or “I will fix you.” 

“I choose not to have sex sometimes too!” 

“You’re just scared.” 

“You should see a therapist.” 

“So you have no emotions?” 

“Wow, you’re missing out.” 

“It must mean you’re not happy.”

“I think you’re just repressing your sexuality.” 

“You’re not a whole person.”

“Wow, that’s weird and creep.” [still not sure how it’s creepy!]

“I bet it’s your hormones.” 

So many people think they know what Asexuality is, but then they are actually basing it on misconceptions.

Acephobia is almost everywhere, and it’s so damaging. 

And ace people are threatened and oppressed and even hurt because of their asexuality. It happens.

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